After a week’s vacation, I have a singular focus: selling books. In Florida, as we perused a Books-A-Million, I saw my book on the shelf. I quickly scooped it up from the self-help section and plopped it on our “favorite paperbacks” shelf. A little guerilla marketing never hurt anyone and perhaps someone will pick it…
Once upon a time, I stood in a boxing ring. I wore leather gloves flecked with red. I threw jabs and overhand lefts and body shots into the soft bellies of men. I got brain surgery; I stopped boxing; I lost heaps of hair on the left side of my head. As a freshman in college,…
This morning, as I dove into a stack of buckwheat carob pancakes, drizzled lightly in agave nectar with a steaming cup of coffee, I thought about my girlfriends. I have always been someone who fosters close, intimate relationships and would take that any day over hundreds of acquaintances. I am lucky enough to have several…
Have you ever stopped to think about the wide scope of our emotions? How you can be absolutely certain of how you feel and that you will always feel this way, and then just as easily, whether the circumstances change, the partner changes, the place changes, or simply through time, you feel completely different about…
Men are the masters of the midlife crisis. Shiny cars, bimboesque (I realize this is not a real word) arm candy, affairs, dye jobs or hair transplants, extravagant vacations, unnatural tans, bad tattooes… the list goes on. Many a wife has stood back in silence and watched as their husband disappears into what one can…
Last year, I was in Nashville around this time, experiencing my very first Christmas as a single person. I’d gone from being married to having an affair to moving away to traveling to Switzerland on a writing job, getting back into personal training and nutrition, meeting the love of my life, writing a book about…
I have had exactly 11 relationships. Perhaps you should know that I have an affinity for the number 11, that it follows me around wherever I go, in clocks, on television, in books, in movies, everywhere… Alex is my 11th relationship, his full name has exactly 11 letters, and we will wed on the 11th…
What does it mean to have a healthy “diet” for your relationship? First, I should clarify that I don’t like the word diet in terms of what it has come to mean today. It denotes a lack, which instantly makes people think of deprivation. However, traditionally the word diet alludes to the foods we habitually…
Love is a tricky thing; so much so, that we often go through it more than once. In a world full of infinite options, how are we expected to get it right the first time around? I have experienced my fair share of love, always with a boyfriend from the time I could count to…
As the research and writing for my book come to an end, I ruminate over each story: some incredibly personal, some rewritten, some haunting, some humorous, all of them real. I marvel at the predicaments we get ourselves into, and how an affair can haunt you, much like a death, for years, and perhaps, even…
