The other day, I had an epiphany: Resistance rules my life.
Quite literally, in the gym, I’m resisting…against weights, the ground or myself. With work, sometimes, I resist. I don’t really want to do project X, but I need the money. I don’t really want to stack my schedule like Y, but I have to. I’m not at liberty to say no.
Or am I?
Our lives consist of habits and routines. This is true of the daily grind, and this is true of your thought patterns. We tend to think the same way, even if we stumble upon something truly inspiring. We might vow to be different, to think different, to move different, but to be different is an entirely new ballgame.
How can we become different? It starts with pinpointing the biggest culprit in your life. What is the one thing that, if you changed it, would cause a snowball effect and fix X, Y and Z? Is it sleep? Is it dessert? Is it turning off the TV and connecting with your spouse? Is it letting go of fear? Find your biggest area of resistance. Sit with it. See how long it’s been part of your life. And then come up with tangible ways to let it go. (Or reach out to someone who can help, like yours truly!)
With so many of my clients, training isn’t the problem. It’s nutrition. It’s lack of sleep. It’s the job. It’s stress. It’s having kids. It’s having too many bills to pay. It’s that ever present “not having enough.”
But what is it really? What is all of it, really? Where does this resistance even come from?
It comes from the mind.
1. Stop using resistance in the way you speak.
While we certainly can’t micro-manage every thought in our heads, see how many thoughts revolve around resistance. How many times do you say “not,” “don’t want,” or “can’t” in your daily life? Try and catch yourself when you use negative words. If your friends constantly complain, just observe. Don’t chime in.
2. Identify your biggest resistance culprit.
Examine your daily life. Where does the biggest source of frustration stem from? What instantly puts you in a bad mood? When does your stomach turn into knots? When do you feel a source of anxiety?
3. Take small, measured steps to eliminate that culprit.
We are such an “all or nothing” society, but becoming balanced and healthy doesn’t usually work like that. Come up with a plan over a finite period of time to diminish your resistance and then eliminate it all together.
4. Do something good for yourself each and every day.
Time is really an illusion. It’s up to us the way we schedule out our days, the way we spend each moment of our time. People who don’t make time to get massages, work out, eat whole foods or even spend time with friends are simply choosing to spend their time in other ways. Choose the way you want to spend your time and make yourself a priority.
5. Get out of your own way.
Once you examine the largest culprit in your life, keep going. What’s next? Approach resistance as an ongoing, living thing that will change and alter just as you change and alter. Be flexible with yourself and get out of your own way. Intrinsically, we know what it means to live simply, to be balanced and to stay healthy. We just muck it up with too much conflicting information. Tune into your body and your mind.
Only you knows what’s best.